05/01/2018

BECOMING A SINGLE MUM

              Becoming a mum is a blessing from Allah, A stage of life which completes a women’s purpose.   The first promise you make is “I will never let anything bad happen to you”.
I became a single mum 4 weeks after having a C-section.  Not only I had to figure out how I am going to move around after just being cut but also look after a baby and his older brother who was 6. No job, no savings, no car and the nearest family to me were 60 miles away.
Despite trying to make sense of my personal emotions of becoming a newly divorced women, I had a much more important issue to deal with. Two in fact.

             Establishing a routine helped me to bury the battle of emotions I had going on in my head 24/7. You see when you have children, your emotions don’t exist.
I started off small, when does the baby need feeding, do I have nappy’s, are the school uniform ready, Are the meals prepped for the day,  Is the laundry done?.
I found myself consumed in general household duties keeping myself busy and never really had any time for myself.  There were times when I had gone days without even brushing my hair or changing my clothes. But what about the future?


           Knowing it would be extremely hard, I decided to go back to work. Leaving my baby who was 3 months and still being breastfed in a nursery. Someone had to earn the money and put food on the table. I started to put some money away even if it was couple of pounds here and there. We were existing but not living.


          You hear all sorts about single mums and how terrible and sad it is. But to be honest 6 months after my divorce my life actually got better.  It wasn’t easy but now 4 years later when I look back I can see and be proud of all the things I have achieved as a single mother. Graduated, promoted, and bought a car, new home, no debts, new friends, and holidays and so on. A small step for mankind but a big leap for a single mother. 

          The thing to remember is when you are going through hard times it would feel like a lifetime. Think logically before emotionally to overcome them.  Don’t be afraid to ask for help, it doesn’t make you weak. But most important of them all is to dream, dream big for yourself and your children every night. And use those dreams to fuel you to run towards your goals.

            If that is not enough for you then remember Prophet Isa (as), Prophet Mohammed (saw) and Imam Bukhari who were all raised by single mothers who dedicated their lives and we are part of this illustrious sisterhood of amazing single mothers who raised exceptional progeny.
After all I made a promise “I will never let anything bad happen to them”.

25 comments:

  1. Amazing how strong you are Alhamdulillah.
    I'm so happy you started this blog. I really needed your motivating words today.
    You are an inspiration to me and every struggling person out there. You're amazing personality and character is one of the first things i loved about you. May the Almighty forever grant you and your beautiful children all the happiness in this life and the next.
    Lots of love xx

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    1. Aww thank you so much, i have always wanted to share my story but never felt 100% about actually doing it. now slowly slowly getting the hang of it xx

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  2. Wow..i never read a blog in my life as they don't interest me but your one just touch my heart, I make dua to Allah that you and your boys stay happy and have a healthy life inshallah, your such a beautiful person inside and out your boys are lucky to have such a strong mother xxx

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    1. This is amazing to hear thank you so much xx

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  3. Thank you for sharing, your an inspirational strong woman. I'm sure your kids are very proud to call you their mum! Xxx

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    1. 😢 thanknyou thats touching x

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    2. MashaAllah you are very brave strong and beautiful person and Allah subhan knows what's best for you and inshaAllah one day u find the person who acculy love you n respect you. When your children grow up they proudly said thts our Mum. May Allah keep bless you n kids ameen

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    3. MashaAllah you are very brave strong and beautiful person and Allah subhan knows what's best for you and inshaAllah one day u find the person who acculy love you n respect you. When your children grow up they proudly said thts our Mum. May Allah keep bless you n kids ameen

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  4. Wow you are such an inspiration.

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  5. Really glad things are going in the right direction for you! Good luck with all your future plans x

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    1. 😘 thank you, it’s up hill but I’ll get there one day x

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  6. Razia parbin05/01/2018, 17:22

    That is anazing. You truly are inspirational. Cant imagine how hard it mustve been for u but you have done it xx

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    1. thank you, we all reach different difficulties in life. but God never burdens more than what you cant handle xx

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  7. Razia parbin05/01/2018, 17:25

    Oh and forgot to mention i think you should share more so other women can be inspired by reading your story xx

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  8. This is the first time I have read a blog. Ma-Shaa-Allah you are so brave and inspiring. Thank you for sharing your story. Your experience will definitely help others. I always watch your videos, snaps etc. Your positivity and beauty from the inside and out truly inpires me. Stay blessed always xx

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    1. aww thank you so much this so sweet and i am humbled xx

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  9. Absolutely beautiful and inspiring Masha'Allah it is truly amazing the hardships you went through and the rewards you have recieved truly inspiring and real life goals xxx

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    1. thank you, it was a long time coming. i wanted to do this for such along time and now i feel i am ready to share xx

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  10. Stay blessed beaut. IA may Allah make it easy for you and give u pious children and many more successes. Ameen xx

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  11. Wow an amazing story and such a strong and inspirational woman you are! I'm glad you shared your story because you have motivated me to do better! I can relate to you. It is very hard as a single mother. You're words have helped me to keep motivated and never give up. You are a wonderful person and your children will be proud of you sis! Hugs xxxx

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    1. this is amazing and thank you so much xx

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  12. Thank you for allowing us into your life. I am a married woman but I feel like a single mum as I do everything with kids. I am excited to read your blogs and you have me strength am doing great too.

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    1. thank you so much xx i am truly touched and hope it may help some xx

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